Please consider buying and reading these books- as we will likely discuss them during therapy or groups:
The Book of Forgiving
Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu
Loving What is
The Awakened Earth
Any books by: Eckhart Tolle, Rick Hanson, Byron Katie, Ernest Holmes
More books: The Art of Possibility by Rosamund Stone Zander
The ONE Thing by Gary Keller
Seven thousand Ways to Listen by Mark Nepo
Everyday Oracles by Ann Boninger-McQuade
The Dark Side of the Mind by Alba alamillo
Fail fast, Fail Often by Ryan Bobineaux and John Krumboltz
The Hidden Power of Kindness
The ten things to do When Your Life Falls Apart by by: Daphne Rose Kingma
The Path by Laurie Beth Jones
These websites will teach you about feelings, mindfulness, positive psychology, how to be happier, more peaceful, and how to question stressful thoughts or judgments about yourself or others in your life.
We will use Byron Katie's `The Inquiry' Method in our sessions likely. Learn more about her by watching YouTube Videos. You can download her worksheets here: www. thework.com
Other great links:
About Mindfulness, meditation:
Learn about your feelings:
- Click here for a PDF I developed to help you change how you feel
Worksheets I have developed that we will use in therapy will be added here. Come back soon.
~The seconds that pass, are ours for the taking.
We can turn them into moments that last forever~
~Its never to Late for what might be~
~What we focus on, expands.~
~Whatever you can do, or dream, you can begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it Now.~
~Neurons that fire together, wire together ~
~Its all in your head~
~Love and caring are VERBS, not just feelings ~
~For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of Happiness~
~When Life is sweet, Say Thank you, and Celebrate ~
~When Life is better, say Thank you, and Grow~.
~If a door Closes, Quit banging on it
Whatever was behind it,
was not meant for you.
Consider that perhaps the door was closed,
because you are worth so much more than what was on the other side~
~No matter what has happened in the past, Your future has yet to be written~
The Benefits of Journalling
The benefits of Journalling include gaining clarity, perspective, releasing, claiming, healing,
problem-solving, sparking creativity, manifesting and more. The ancient
tradition of journalling goes back to at least 10th century Japan. It is
the most simple, pure, route to living intentionally, being fully awake
for life & honoring your True Self. It can also help resolve
conflicts, make decisions, resolve pain & `stuckness,' feel more
motivated, & express your prayers, wishes, hopes & dreams.
Benefits of Meditation
The benefits of Meditating are many! You will experience less anxiety, depression and stress, more enjoyment of life, a more purposeful day and life, more serenity, happiness and peace. You will learn to be
being in the Here & Now, by connecting to your breath, heart, body, soul,
spirit, and wisdom! Meditation has also been shown to improve health –
physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. The exact date of its
origin is unknown, but archeologists & scholars agree that
meditation has been around for about 5,000 years. Some call it the
listening part of prayer.
Credit for the information below goes to Pamela Hayes, and the Huffington Post
6 Well-Being Boosters to Kick Winter Blues by an Alaskan Psychologist
Pamela A. Hays
Psychologist and Author, ‘Creating Well-Being: Four Steps to a Happier, Healthier Life’
I work as a
psychologist in a small Alaskan town where winters are long and many
people, including myself, experience the winter blues. With my clients
and in my own life, I use and recommend the following six strategies for
increasing well-being year-round.
1. Attitude of Gratitude
About four years ago, after reading a new study on the positive effects
of gratitude on mood, I decided I wanted to become more appreciative of
what I have. My husband Bob agreed to join me, and we eventually made it
into a game in which every day we each say five things we’re grateful
for, and whoever is first to remember the exercise that day goes first,
because the second person has to think of five additional things. If you
want to make this exercise a regular part of your life, the trick is to
keep it interesting by adapting it in a way that works for you. Some
people I’ve worked with use it in their morning devotions, others like
to write their list in a journal, and some prefer to use it as a nightly
mental ritual in bed before falling asleep.
Reframing involves intentionally taking a different perspective. You’ve
probably experienced such a shift in perspective unintentionally, for
example, when you learn that an irritating coworker is a single parent
working two part-time jobs to support her two children, one of whom has
cancer. Such shifts in perspective involve thoughts such as “maybe my
situation isn’t that bad,” followed by feelings of relief, gratitude,
and compassion towards the other person — all of which feel better than
irritation, frustration, anxiety, or anger. In its simplest form,
reframing involves asking yourself, “Is there another way to think about
this problem that would help me feel less stressed?”
3. Wise Elder
One of my favorite thought-change tools comes from the psychotherapist
Yvonne Dolan, and it is called Wise Elder. It is easier to understand if
you do it, so here you go:
Step 1: Think of a problem or situation that brings up negative thoughts and feelings of stress.
Step 2: Now
close your eyes and imagine that you are 90 years old, with a lifetime
of experiences, learning, and wisdom. When you have a picture of
yourself at this older age, imagine that you are looking back on
yourself and your current situation. What advice would your 90-year-old
self give you today? Do you notice a positive shift in your feelings as
you tell yourself this advice?
4. Growth Opportunity
Growth opportunity is a type of reframe that comes from the Buddhist
idea that all obstacles are opportunities for growth. With this
approach, obstacles are seen as a normal part of life, to be expected
and handled as compassionately as possible, with no need for the
negative, judgmental thinking and behavior that make them more
difficult. Growth opportunity involves asking yourself what you can
learn and how you can grow from an experience, for example, the
experience may help you develop a new outlook, greater empathy, or more
appreciation for what you have.
5. Values Compass
When you have tried and tried changing yourself, and either the change
is not happening or it is going so slowly that you feel too discouraged
to keep trying, imagine your value priorities as an internal compass
that keeps you motivated along the path of well-being. With this
strategy, you do not ignore your own contribution to your stress, but
rather, focus on the values that give you a sense of purpose, as a way
to motivate yourself to keep going when the going is tough. You
encourage yourself with these kinds of thoughts: Okay, apparently I
am not able to change this, at least for now, so I need to accept myself
the way I am, the situation for what it is, or this person for who they
are. How can I live my life and make good choices despite this
difficulty, in a way that fits with my values?
There are many kinds of meditation: sitting meditation, walking
meditation, loving kindness meditation, and yoga, to name a few. All of
these various forms begin with attention to the breath. Breath is a tool
in itself that connects your mind with your body. When you focus on
your breath, you create a bridge that, as Thich Naht Hanh says, allows
your mind to listen to your body, creating a one-ness of body and mind.
If meditation is new to you, start small — five minutes a day,
increasing the time as you are able.
As you practice
any one of these well-being boosters and begin to feel better, you may
begin to notice that they contribute to the well-being of those around
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